You can’t stand them at the moment
Their very presence is a torment
You may despise them now
But, their departure will hit you, and how

For, even at an unknown mans funeral
The eyes well up with tears, in general
The final goodbye thrashes all hatred
Replacing it, with a deep regret instead

Make amends when there is still time
As holding on to grudges would be a crime
In the end, all that matters is your merit
And all the peace that you inherit

© Kavita Panyam



  1. Forgiveness is a long journey. Also hatred is a positive, a source of the energy that emerges when we have felt it inside, energy to be put towards the change we want to be, the change we want to see, no time for destruction. Staying away does not feel the same thing as avoiding my own hatred. It is more like staying back enough to see that other person in a wider lens. What else do they have besides the thing you hate?
    Gosh – see how you got me thinking, thanks for the spur.

    • That was beautifully put! Hatred and love , both are labels given by people depending on their individual situations. One mans love is another mans hatred. Staying away, is to avoid getting hurt any further, but that does not resolve the issue. The only way is to make peace with them in your mind and heart!

    • Forgiveness is a rather complex thing. I think it comes down to empathy. If we can see ourselves doing someone else the same sort of hurt, it is easier to forgive. It also comes down to recognizing who was really hurt. When someone hurts us, we feel pain, but our Creator knows the full magnitude of the wrong and the hurt. Because every sin is against God, that is why vengeance belongs to Him.

      When we accept the knowledge there will be justice, it becomes easier to forgive and focus on correcting the wrongs we ourselves have done.

    • Atheist? Well, there is right, and there is wrong. How an Atheist determines the difference depends upon the Atheist, I suppose. I just hope you believe in loving your neighbor as you love yourself.

      By definition, when we forgive, we need to forgive because we believe we have been wronged. Acceptance, I think, has a different basis and poses a different problem. For example. I believe in God. You do not. Each of us believe something the other denies. We can choose to live and let live. That’s acceptance, or, because we find mere differences of opinion threatening, we can chew each other apart. That sort of thing is the basis for irrational hatred.